Be someone who brings as much to the table as you expect from them.
If you want someone who lives passionately, has an interesting, fulfilling career, has tons of hobbies, fills the room with their personality and inspires other through their actions, then you need to be that kind of person, too. We settle for mediocrity in ourselves and yet expect to end up with Leonardo Di Caprio or Keira Knightley.
“I kept in too much contact with my ex, since our constant communication was an addiction, and therefore, it took me longer to let him go,” says Heather*, a junior at the University of California, Los Angeles.
Although it’s tempting to keep texting your ex just to check in or for a casual conversation, it will only make it harder for both of you to move on.
In subsequent weeks, we’ve had almost nothing to talk about on the phone, since he’s been so happy with the new girl.Mistake #1: Trying to stay in contact with your ex Mark Sharp, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist at The Aiki Relationship Institute, warns that “even if there is potential for a friendship after a breakup, there almost invariably needs to be a period of time” before you two can be friends.In the end, they fail to make space in their lives for the right person because there’s no room.In the creative arts, there is a saying: “Good is the enemy of great.” And I’d say the same applies to relationships. If you’re not saying aloud (or at least to yourself) “I love you” to your mate in 6 months or less, hit the “next” button.