Generally, though, I couldn't swap my husband's face with Mr.Darcy's as easily as I used to exchange the heads of my Barbie and Ken dolls as they rolled around on the Dream House bed.Additionally, my hockey-playing, Wisconsin-born husband didn't usually woo me with haughty, aristocratic-speak (nor did he ride into the bedroom on a steed).
Prior to healthy separation, teenagers often blame their parents for their unhappiness, feel like victims and angrily cite their parents' shortcomings (e.g., "they're too self-centered" or "they don't understand me") as causes for the problems.
Despite only seeing single mothers portrayed on TV and in movies as frumpy, over-worked women only a deeply kind, "good" person could find hot and appealing, I was totally surprised (and thrilled) when I realized that just because I was a single mom didn't make me any less desirable.
In fact, it made me more appealing to the right kinds of partners.
In addition, with the continued connection between ex-spouses because of their children, some couples find they still do have feelings for each other after the turmoil from the separation subsides.
If the problems in your marriage are reversible, in that with work you can solve them, it's possible you can reconcile.