It actually made my life easier to just let it be and not make a stink over it.
~ Michelle Michelle and her husband were married for sixteen years.
But the process of coping becomes that much more difficult when you watch your ex start dating again even before your tears have dried up.
It’s worst at night, when there are no distractions. So when you’re imagining your Ex and their new sex partner making out on the couch, you react to it emotionally (and physically) like you were seeing it happen right in front of you: Your heart starts racing, you feel nauseous, and you are filled with pain and rage.Now, waves of rage, pain, self-doubt, and resentment are crashing over you. The practice: As soon as you become aware that you are thinking about your Ex, say, (out loud, if necessary) “I am thinking about something that is not happening right now.” Repeat this to yourself a few times as needed. If shifting mentally is too hard you can also shift your attention to something that is happening in the present moment: Watching a movie, listening to music, or petting your dog.“Coping” has been overwhelmed by a storm of emotion. 2) Mindfulness Recognize that your vivid thoughts are activating all these scary, painful feelings, but in reality nothing bad is actually happening to you right now. Shifting is important because the thoughts we habitually think about get stronger.It’s only natural to experience some emotions when you see your ex with someone new.However, that feeling of jealousy or envy may not be about wanting to reconcile with your ex but rather about wanting to be in an intimate relationship.